A Letter from an Egg Donor

Let me introduce myself, I am a 27-year-old, 5'6, half Caucasian, half Thai Egg Donor and Feminist.  

Infertility is isolating, painful, and discouraging. A disappointment. Infertility has created a speed bump that quickly turns into a hill and then a mountain - a never ending climb in your life. I come into the picture after you've beaten yourself up, after your countless medical appointments, your pain, your injections, your frustration, your despair.

I know the idea of using an egg donor is painful, that fear of not having that genetic connection with the child, that envy towards other families who didn't have to go this route, the embarrassment. There is a lot of stigma around egg donors, the topic still being taboo no matter how far medicine has advanced or how more women are talking about their infertility issues.  

I play a very small part in your overall infertility journey; I am a steppingstone for the completion of your family.

I know your decision to use me, or a donor was not easy. I know that you fought with yourself about it, but please, don't be ashamed or embarrassed. Please embrace in the 9 months you'll prepare for this wonderful creation that will see you as their first love, the person in this world that will keep them safe, that will teach them, that will mend cuts, that will cheer them on at their sporting events and help with their homework. That bond that you will build is deeper than genetics. I am but a steppingstone, a helping hand.   

-Niki Wilmink 

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