Nelly Joy's Fertility Journey
My infertility journey began in 2011 when I suspected I had endometriosis, but my concerns were dismissed by a doctor who simply handed me birth control and sent me on my way. “Most women have painful periods, you’ll be fine!” I remember feeling like I got slapped in the face.
Nelly Joy's Fertility Journey
For many years, I battled debilitating pain, kidney issues, anemia, IBS, and constant vomiting while touring with many big names like Jason Aldean, Eric Church, Blake Shelton and Brad Paisley.
There were a few arena shows that I simply do NOT remember playing because the doctors had put me on so many pain meds and steroids. It wasn't until 2013 that I finally found a doctor who listened and diagnosed me with endometriosis during surgery. The discovery of an endometrial cyst that had glued my ovary stuck to my pelvic wall was a shock, especially as a newlywed at 28 years old.
Surgery #2 came in 2017, resulting in the loss of a third of my left ovary due to another endometrial cyst. Despite never actively preventing pregnancy, my husband and I struggled with infertility. In 2020, we decided to explore our fertility options and underwent our first round of IVF in 2021, which unfortunately ended in disappointment.
We tried IVF again in 2022, only to have to stop mid-cycle due to lack of egg growth.
The following year, we took a break from IVF and attempted to conceive naturally, resulting in a heartbreaking ectopic pregnancy in August. The loss of the baby and my right fallopian tube was devastating, but for the first time in a decade, I had no signs of endometriosis thanks to consistent acupuncture. An app called Inito saved my life in a very round a bout way. Had I not been testing my hormones, I would not have known I was pregnant. And I may not have gone to the hospital when the pain started. I’m grateful that I was testing consistently and saw that my hormones were very “off”. Which lead my discovery of being pregnant.
In January 2024, we decided to pursue IUI but I was diagnosed with chronic endometritis, a bacterial infection in my uterus. After undergoing multiple rounds of treatment, we are now ready to try again, although there are lingering infections that need to clear up first.
Despite the challenges and setbacks, I remain hopeful and surrender to the fact that some things are beyond my control.
My journey through infertility has been filled with heartbreak, pain, and uncertainty, but I continue to persevere with the unwavering support of my husband and the guidance of compassionate doctors. Turning my heartache into art and writing the song Baby Showers has been very helpful. If my story can help one woman feel less alone, it’s worth it to me!
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