“Oh but your so young, you have plenty of time.” This is the Story of my life. If I got $1 every time I heard this, I probably would have been able to afford several rounds of IVF by now!
I’m 25 years old and have been TTC 4 ½ years now. I suffer from Endometriosis and PCOS. I’ve known about my endometriosis since I was 14 years old BUT was naive and never told/advised of how it would affect my fertility, neither did I do the research of what endometriosis can cause. We began trying in July 2015 and blamed the “stress” of planning a wedding on not being able to conceive. Fast forward to September 2016 to our wedding and still no baby! My Family Doctor who has treated me since I was 8 years old refused to send me to get tests because “I WAS TOO YOUNG TO GET PREGNANT” in his eyes. He wouldn’t take me seriously and told me he would refer me to a specialist after I turned 25. It made me so upset, so shortly after I switched Doctors and was referred to a GYNO in December 2016. I was diagnosed with PCOS and Re-diagnosed with Endometriosis. I was devastated to hear for the first time that Endometriosis was affecting my fertility as well as PCOS. I was put on Metformin for a year. I had a Laparoscopy done in December 2017 and it was by far the worst experience ever. I got an infection and what was supposed to be a 1-week recovery was quickly turned in a 2-month recovery in and out of the ER. 3 months later we booked an appt with a RE specialist and he asked my Husband to get a SA & for me to get a HSG test to check if there were any issues with my fallopian tubes. My HSG test came back clear and My hubby’s SA was Excellent. It’s now December 2018 and still no baby. We were constantly being asked at family gatherings when we would start a family. We choose to pretend we weren’t ready yet to avoid all the questions, but it was hard. We both come from Big Mexican families were my mom has 9 siblings and my dad has 13, my father in law has 8 and my mother in law has 9. I have 3 siblings and my husband has 2. While my husband is the oldest, we are the ONLY ones without a kid. This added major stress to us.
We began Clomid in Jan. 2019 and did 6 rounds of it that were all unsuccessful. If anyone has taken clomid you know how it can truly have an impact on your hormones, so I was constantly feeling sick and had to take some days off during the cycles to rest. I brought it up to my Employer and let her know of my struggles as I wanted her to understand why I was missing work so often. I basically told her my whole story and her only reply was “Why are you stressing yourself out your so young and shouldn’t be worried about conceiving right now instead enjoy your married life”. I was baffled! I didn’t know how to take her comment/concern. I continued with the company for about 3 months and then I quit after I learned she was making comments to others about my fertility journey.
I constantly get comments about my age and how I shouldn’t stress, but sadly I do worry! Years have gone by so quick and I feel my dream is becoming more out of reach as time goes by. I’ve ALWAYS known that I wanted to be a mother. As a little girl when I was asked what my dream Career was, I would always say “A MOM”. I’m currently in my TWW (7 more days to go till I can test) from my IUI #1. The current RE we are working with is very hopeful that we will conceive, and my DREAM will come true!