The Dreaded Two Week Wait: 3 Tactics to Get Through It

The dreaded two week wait. The TWW. #2WWPUPO. Somewhat cute names, but waiting for those two pink lines is anything but cute. Whatever you call this period of time, it can be excruciating, especially if this waiting period follows stressful fertility treatments.

Estrogen to the square root of progesterone.

For me, that dreaded two-week wait was a period of calculations. “They transferred a 5-day blastocyst, at what would have been day 19 of a “normal” cycle, my luteal phase is normally 14-15 days… “, on and on. I would calculate down to the minute it was “reasonable” (in my hormone-soaked brain) to take that first at home pregnancy test. The test, BTW, the clinics advise you NOT to take.

Why don’t they advise you to take it? I’ve received a variety of responses. You can get a false negative. You may test too early and then think you’re not pregnant and engage in risky non-pregnancy like activities. But there was no way I was waiting until the clinic’s first beta test.

Self-Preservation

My rationale seemed quite logical to me. I would either test at home, see two pink lines and shorten the length of anguish; or, I would find out in the comfort of my own home we were not successful that cycle and be mentally prepared for when the post-blood work call came in. Those calls were always made just after lunch, in the middle of my busy workday. The last thing I needed was a devastating call, crushing my PUPO (pregnant until proven otherwise) dreams – while surrounded by co-workers. No. Thank. You.

So, what’s a girl to do?

Whether you are in the ‘test-at-home camp’ or not, there is still a waiting period. I employed a number of different tactics, and since then have learned about a few others.

Tactic #1: Geek it Up

I’m a science geek at heart, and (when not hopped up on hormones) a fairly logic driven person. Throughout our entire fertility journey, I found comfort in understanding what was happening (or supposed to be happening…) in my body.

So, what is happening during the dreaded two-week wait?

It depends on how you are attempting to become pregnant. If you’ve gone through an IVF cycle then they have transferred either a fresh or frozen embryo back into your uterus. If you have done an intrauterine insemination (IUI), then they have injected live sperm past your cervix into your uterus – timed precisely for when they expect ovulation to occur. If you are doing cycle monitoring – either at home with ovulation kits, or with ultrasounds and blood work at your fertility clinic – then you are trying to time intercourse with when you are ovulating.

Sperm, meet egg.

With an embryo transfer following IVF, the sperm has already fertilized the egg and it has begun to divide in its cozy little petri dish. With IUI or intercourse those little sperm are trying their hardest to reach the egg and make magic happen (fertilization). If sperm meets egg and the strongest little guy (or girl – gender is determined by the sperm!) penetrates the outer layer of the egg, fertilization occurs. Ta-Da!

May the odds be ever in your favor.

Why doesn’t fertilization occur? First, let’s look at the odds. The chance of the average couple (without any known issues) getting pregnant in any given month (fecundability) is about 15-25%, but this likelihood is impacted by age, lifestyle factors and whether intercourse is being timed.

When things go south.

So, what is happening the other 75-85% of the time? There are a number of reasons fertilization may not occur, some examples:

  • the sperm can’t penetrate the egg – the outer layer of the egg is sometimes difficult to penetrate, or
  • the enzymes on the head of the sperm are up to the task
  • ovulation doesn’t happen when anticipated – maybe earlier or later than anticipated and the sperm haven’t yet joined the party, or they’ve already come and gone.
  • sperm can’t get past the cervix
  • vaginal or uterine environment isn’t optimal for the sperm to make their way to the egg

These are just some examples of when the end of the two-week wait results in a BFN (big fat negative for those not down with the fertility lingo).

The stars align

BUT – when the stars (ok, not stars – egg and sperm…) align – POOF! Fertilized egg. So, whether you have a fertilized egg due to IVF, IUI or intercourse – there is now an actively dividing mass of cells. This cell division will continue to occur, and that little mass of cell’s next task is to implant into the lining of the uterus. This is called implantation, and even once an egg is fertilized still only occurs about 40% of the time. Why doesn’t it always occur? There are again a number of reasons. For example, sometimes the lining of the uterus, or endometrium, isn’t optimal. Sometimes there are genetic issues with the fertilized egg and it stops dividing and cannot implant.

If implantation is successful it occurs roughly 4-6 days after fertilization and some women may notice some spotting. Panic! Panic! This can be very alarming as you may think you’re getting your period. If it is implantation bleeding it should stop after a day or two. The lining of your uterus will continue to get thicker and a mucus plug will form, sealing off your cervix. This plug stays in place until the baby is born.

Let’s get comfy

The mass of cells is now officially called a blastocyst and as it is getting comfortable in that nourishing uterine lining, it is also secreting the pregnancy hormone human chorionic gonadotrophin (hCG). This hormone is a signal to your body not to menstruate (get your period) and to keep that little blastocyst safely inside. hCG can be tested in your blood as early as 6-8 days after ovulation, however it takes higher concentrations for it to be detectable in your urine.

Ok – cool. Lots of science.

But how does this all help you during that two-week wait? For some, just understanding the science behind what leads to a positive pregnancy test may be reassuring.

You can also use this information to help you practice positive visualizations. During these early weeks that little mass of cells develops into a blastocyst, implants in the wall and continues growing and with the cells differentiating into the future roles – like fingers, toes, organs… you get the idea. Picture all of this occurring. When you feel yourself starting to panic and get anxious envision all of the processes occurring in your body to lead to that rise in hCG and a positive pregnancy test. You can use this guide to help get you started:

Positive Visualization during the Dreaded Two Week Wait

  1. Find a calm, comfortable space and minimize distractions.
  1. Start to control your breath – breathe in for a count of 5 and then exhale for a count of 10. Keep doing this until you feel calm and at ease.
  1. Once calm, envision that tiny, strong ball of cells actively dividing.
  1. Picture it making its way to your thick, nourishing uterine lining and burrowing into it.
  1. Envision continued growth, with those early cells differentiating into the vital building blocks of a baby.
  1. Stay in this visualization as long as you need to feel calm.

If you find this brings you some semblance of calm, you can employ this type of visualization technique at any point during the dreaded two-week wait. You can use it right at the beginning, picturing a strong sperm penetrating the newly ovulated egg. You can use it also to help envision implantation. And you can use it while you’re waiting for those two pink lines to form, or the call from your doctor’s office.

Tactic #2: Distract, distract, distract.

We know that mind of yours is pretty focused on the end of this two-week window. But you will drive yourself nuts (speaking from first-hand experience here!) if you allow it to consume you. There are different ways to stop the mind from spiraling – try out different options to see what works for you.

Sometimes, it helps to allow yourself 5 minutes to let your mind go wild. Give yourself that time, and then find a task to move onto. Then some ideas:

  • Call a friend
  • Netflix it up.
  • Organize your cutlery drawer (ok – lame to some, but I heart organization)

Whatever it is, find something that will adequately draw your attention away from the obsessive TWW thoughts.

Get your blood pumping

Other times a physical activity may help. You know us, we are all for a little exercise. Now, this isn’t the time in your life to prepare for a marathon – but getting the blood pumping a little is a good thing! You want nice, healthy, oxygenated blood pumping to and around your uterus. Go for a walk. Jump in the pool. Or give our Fertility Warrior Yoga sequence a go:

Want some other ideas? Here is our myMindBodyBaby Top 5 list of TWW Distractions

  1. Go for a walk: throw on your favorite (UP BEAT!) music and go for a walk
  1. Nameste: use the Fertility Warrior Yoga Flow to help ease your mind and move your blood
  1. Plan an excursion: book a pedicure, grab a tea with a friend, make reservations for dinner with your partner – plan something you can look forward to.
  1. Look up a new recipe: one of Michelle’s favorites, a Dreamsicle Chocolate Orange Smoothie, or Google a delicious recipe instead of “early signs you are pregnant” and give it a try for dinner
  1. Organize something: Infertility made me feel like many elements of my life were out of control – finding something to organize in my house made me feel just a little more in control. At least, of my junk drawer.

Tactic #3: Stop the spot checking

Spot checking. You know what I mean. The obsessive urge to run to the bathroom and make sure your period hasn’t started. There were times during our fertility journey where I would make 20 trips during my workday to the bathroom. I’d drink extra water on purpose so I’d pee more often just to rationalize those extra trips. While I may have been super hydrated – this was not a healthy way to bide the time.

Once in the bathroom you become Inspector Gadget – analyzing for the slightest hint of blood. I recently heard a great tip to help with this. Dark or red undies! Brilliant. You can’t bust out the magnifying glass if there isn’t going to be anything to see.

We wish you all the best during this window of time. If you would like more tips, resources or want to find out more about supporting your health during this time in your life you can join our myMindBodyBaby community!

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